Category Archives: Mind and Body

Little Lessons in Life

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You are naive if you believe life is going to be perfect all the time. Sometimes life throws curve balls and we have to learn how to hit a home run instead of strike out. I have recently experienced some intense situations in my life. Some I dealt with fairly easily, whileothers have taken me much longer to understand. In the past few years, I have had to learn to remove the negative energy and excuses for why things may be tough and revert it into positive energy and life lessons.

Little Life Lessons

1.  LOVE your family and friends. Don’t just tell them, show them. Take the 2 hour trip to visit your boring grandmother, or call your mom and listen to how tough her day was at work. The people you call family and friends are there for you, so show them how special they are to you. Our days are numbered, and I, personally want my parents, siblings, nieces, friends, etc. to know how important they are to me. We are all busy, but even if you take 10 minutes out of your day to call up someone in your family you haven’t spoken to in a while, or a friend you went to school with, just to see how they are doing and let them know how important they are to you can truly make a person’s day. I know this because, it makes my day when the phone rings and I hear my sweet nieces, or silly sister’s voice on the other end.

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2. Don’t let RELATIONSHIPS consume you. I feel as if some people get too comfortable in relationships. I’m not knocking the idea of love but be sure to be able to love yourself prior to loving another person. If you are honest with yourself and aren’t happy some times as hard as it may be, you have to end the relationship for not only you but also the other person. I recently ended a pretty lengthy relationship due to the fact that I felt as if it consumed me and hindered my future progress as an individual. There was no “cheating”,  I didn’t “hate” him, and there was no major fight to end things. I simply felt my heart wasn’t in it nor was it fair to keep someone in my life because I was “comfortable”. It’s ok sometimes to be uncomfortable for a moment to get your focus where it needs to be. I believe one of the main reasons it has been a mental challenge for him to move on is because he felt as if I was his life. He was an amazing person who no doubt loved me dearly but when things ended, it was difficult for him to stand on his own two feet which in turn made it more difficult for him to move forward.

3. Learn to be INDEPENDENT. I have been pretty blessed to have both a  supportive and encouraging family. My parents have taught me the importance of valuing what you have and hard work. These lessons have molded me into being an independent person. I like being on my own and not asking approval before doing what I want to do. I’m an adult who works hard therefore everything I have done and things I’ve experienced are because I worked for them. I take care of myself and my dog and at the end of the day that’s all I am responsible for. Of course I have had financial set backs, but luckily I have a great support system who will help me get back on track when I may struggle, but I find it important for people to be able to do things for themselves. I think some people may fear being uncomfortable and never learn to do things for themselves.

4. Be MINDFUL of who you let in. Certain people, for example, your family and friends, of course you are going to talk to  about certain things going on in your life, but not everyone you meet needs to know about your personal issues. Some people talk too much while others don’t talk enough. I am very out going and hang out with a lot of people but at the same time, I don’t let certain people I hang out with know too much about me. It’s not that I am being mean or sneaky, it’s because I have learned that people have to earn the right to get to know me. I have let a lot of people in, especially in my early 20s that I should have never talked to or considered a friend. It happens. Some people change while others were never true.  Humans, not all but some, are jealous creatures. Some people hate to see other people doing well, but that shouldn’t stop you from allowing those who do want you to succeed be a part of your experiences.

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5. Be APPRECIATIVE. No matter how tough something is don’t forget to appreciate all of the good in your life. Whether it be the sun shining  on a summer day or a  job promotion, never forget how lucky you are to have what you have!

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How’s that for Service?

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American society has molded individuals to believe having a certain job title or holding a certain position within a company determines a person’s educational or personal value. I’m 28 years old and I’ve had many different positions in many different industries. I’ve worked in a crucial position within a local pharmaceutical distribution, an advertising agency, and other jobs post college that have taught me an incredible amount of things but why? Yes, money is the answer, but not anymore. I’m going to continue to work at my dreams of  becoming a writer while I work as a waitress. Yes, a waitress. I’m sorry if that may not be what American culture adopts as a “good” job, but it’s what I do. I work as a waitress and occasional hostess at a local sushi bar in a cute area of Fort Mill, SC called Akahana Asia Bistro.  I love it. The food is amazing, my coworkers and managers are awesome to work with, and it’s cash in hand daily. I may not punch a time clock from 9-5 every day but I work, and I enjoy what I do.

I’ve heard people say that servers are uneducated. That is far from accurate. I have a college degree from a 4 year university. I choose to work as a waitress while I work on my dream of  becoming a self-made freelance writer. Many of my coworkers are working now towards their education. Others are working towards personal goals similar to myself in writing  whether it be music, painting, or management within the restaurant.  It’s not “uneducated” or “stupid” to work hard for something that you truely enjoy doing and you are good at. Too many people in America are working their asses off in “corporate” America just for the simple fact that that’s what society has brainwashed them into thinking that’s what they are suppose to be doing.

The point in this blog is to open your minds up to what you are capable of doing. Don’t conform to society do what you want and love doing in order to get to your dreams.

Stuck Like Chuck

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I live in the Carolinas for a reason—it’s WARM! I love summer, flip flops, and sundresses. Usually winters are cold but it is rare to it will will snow more than a few hours during the entire winter. Well I have been stuck in my apartment for the last 3 days due to winter storm, Pax. It snowed and snowed and snowed some more and in Charlotte when it snows it becomes a ghost town. Lucky for me Harris Teeter has been open and is just a couple of blocks away from my home. I never thought going to the grocery store would be my form of entertainment but it has been not only my life saver but also a way for me to safely get out of the house. Although I am stir crazy as heck and can’t wait to get back to work, I have creatively found ways to keep myself occupied.

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SNOW DAY IDEAS

1. GO OUTSIDE: Because it rarely does snow here in the south, people go nuts when it does. My dad lives in Colorado, I think the snow is beautiful if I am skiing but other than that, I’m content looking at the snowfall from the warmth of my home. If however you are one of the people who enjoys being outside in the snow–build a snowman, take a walk, grab an inter tube and find some hills to go down, or make a snow angel! Please just remember to dress appropriately–layer up, grab your boots, scarves, hats, and gloves.

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2. CLEAN: Yeah I know– not the most “fun” snow day idea but I used the last 3 days to deep clean my entire home. I did laundry, organized my closet, mopped, dusted, scrubbed the bathroom, did dishes, and more!

3. COOK: I have cooked much more than usual. To be frank it’s because everything is closed but none the less I have eaten some simply delicious warm meals the past couple of days.

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BUNLESS BURGER

These are extremely simple to make and taste AMAZING! I purchased the pre-pattied sweet onion cheddar burgers from Harris Teeter (you can use whatever type of hamburger meat you prefer).  I placed them on my George Foreman grill for about 20 mins flipping after 10 minutes (you can also cook in your oven or skillet–the choice is yours, I just prefer the grill). Then you can top with your favorite toppings! The one I made was topped with sautéed sweet onions, bacon, pepper jack cheese, lettuce, avocado, and pickles. I mixed hot sauce and A1 as a sauce to dip it in! Don’t knock it til you try it!

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CHICKEN TORTILLA SOUP

All I did for this was get a prepackaged dry soup mix (Bear Creek Tortilla to be exact). I then added sautéed chicken, lime, hot sauce, sour cream and Fritos. It was a good winter meal and took less than 20 minutes to make.

4. RELAX: Watch a movie, have a glass of wine, have a spa night, take a nap. Do whatever you want to do that you may not have time to because of your busy schedule. I work nonstop so I made it a point to rest as much as possible.

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Well, the sunshine has finally come out so the white stuff is finally melting but if you are stuck, I hope this gives you some sort of idea of what could make it a little less painful!

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Free Your Mind

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I would be lying if I said the past few months haven’t been stressful for me. It seems as if luck just hasn’t been on my side. I had a tough time dealing with the stresses and my mind became pretty consumed with the negativity. Recently, I said to myself, enough is enough. I do not want to be stressed out nonstop;  I want to find a way to release the negative energy consuming my mind and revert it into a positivity. I spoke with my doctor about some personal issues and she suggested some anti-anxiety medication. I tried it for a couple of months, it helped, but the side effects were awful and  I wanted to have control of my fate and happiness without pharmaceuticals.

So I did.

For the past few weeks I have been making it a point to meditate. Merriam-Webster’s Online Dictionary defines meditation as  the practice of spending time in quiet thought for religious purposes or relaxation. I have devoted about 30 mins a day practicing meditation. Sometimes I do 15 minutes of meditation in the morning and 15 mins at night and other days, I just go to my quiet place for however long it takes  for  the negative energy has been released from my body.

Ultimately it is irrelevant how long, where, and what you do as long as you take some time out of your day to free your mind and have a moment with yourself. I like  looking up a few positive quotes from powerful people (God, Buddha, Dalai Lama, Ghandi, and Walt Whitman are a few of my personal favorites) picking out two or three quotes that I can relate to what is on my mind. I find taking a little time to relate these quotes to my own life, really helps me clear my head. When I do my nightly quiet time, I like to soak my feet in warm water and a few natural oils during my reflections then when I am done massage my feet. It’s a nice way to wind down from a busy day.

Meditation for me has become a way to free my mind. I find, for me, it is an incredibly effective way to live with a more positive outlook on life and help inspire others to do the same. Think positive thoughts and you will live positively. To do so, it is crucial to get the negativity out!
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Growing Up and Bucket Lists

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This Saturday is my 28th birthday! For me, the past 8 years have taught me a lot. I have changed from a young carless  party girl to a caring professional  young woman. I feel like the 20s  have molded me into the person I truly am.  Although, I am proud of who I’ve evolved into, there are still a couple things that I’d like to do while I’m still in my 20s.

20 Things to Do While I’m Still in My 20s

  1. PRAY more.
  2. Land a CAREER that allows me to live comfortably.
  3. READ more books.
  4. Be more ACTIVE.
  5. Spend more time with my FAMILY.
  6. Get out of DEBT.
  7. TRAVEL more.
  8. Watch less TV. 
  9. CUSS less.
  10. INVEST.
  11. MOVE into a house with a back yard.
  12. COOK new recipes.
  13. Get another PUPPY.
  14. Get PUBLISHED.
  15. Expand my MARY KAY business.
  16. COMMUNICATE better when upset.
  17. Become more CRAFTY. 
  18. DONATE to cause I’m passionate about.
  19. Become more PATIENT.  
  20. SKYDIVE. 

A Beautiful Opportunity

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About 3 months ago a very good friend of mine, Apple, had meet me at Starbucks with her and her Mary Kay director Crystal. I went in there thinking I would just listen and help get Apple some brownie points with the company. Well I did not only helped out Apple but I also–signed up to sell Mary Kay. I didn’t know what the heck I was doing but it sounded like an amazing opportunity. I never wore make up and to be brutally honest thought the whole idea of selling Mary Kay was a little cheesy. Well, let me be the one to testify, I LOVE SELLING MARY KAY COSMETICS! Both Apple and Crystal have been amazing mentors for me. They are extremely encouraging and supportive. I text them all the time randomly about goals I’ve reached and new customers I’ve met. They constantly praise my dedication and approach to the Mary Kay way. I am the type of person who deeply enjoys making  people feel pretty. I love empowering people who may need some encouragement or a boost of confidence.  I believe  my own person attributes and the Mary Kay structure–God first, Family second, Career third, has definitely helped me grow both spiritually and professionally. It is an amazing feeling to help educate people on the Mary Kay products while making them feel beautiful! If you or someone you know is in need of any Mary Kay products feel free to email me directly at arhodes733@marykay.com. I able to accept cash, check, or credit card and will ship products for FREE! For the most recent updates and specials, like my Facebook page: MaryKayWithA or read my blog MaryKayWithA.wordpress.com! Thanks for all of the support!

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Snip and Clip

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Let’s face it guys– our economy is not at its best. Although the job rate is slowly back on the climb, employers are not able to offer the compensation they once were. It’s not that they necessarily don’t think candidates don’t deserve it, it’s that many internal costs of running a business has also increased. It is not easy to run a business especially with the issues our economy is facing.

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Well this blog is not going to find you a job or give you the winning lottery numbers but, it should help you manage to save some money while shopping for your families essentials. We’ve all seen the shows and heard the stories of the people who spend close to nothing on a whole month’s worth of groceries. I was a bit hesitant about this whole couponing idea until I saw how easy it was to do.

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I’m not going to sit here and say it is easy to because it does take work and patience (which I am working on). About a month ago I got a Sunday paper and collected the coupons, then continued just about each week following. All I did was check the sales papers for the  two local grocery stores and made lists of what was on sale and looked for a coupon. Everyone has their own system but that is mine. I ended up spending $50 on $120 worth of groceries at Harris Teeter. SCORE!!! I also look through to find good prices to local restaurants, stores, and entertainment on groupon.com. We got concert tickets for $22 a piece! Can’t beat that. It can be a little time consuming but trust me you and your bank account will definitely appreciate it. Happy Couponing!

All You Magazine has some great tips for people who are interested in couponing and need some ideas on where to start. http://www.allyou.com/coupons-deals/easy-couponing-00400000061681/