Category Archives: Love

One Love

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This may be the shortest blog I ever post but that’s ok. I need to get straight to the point right now.

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The world we live in is ridiculous. I seriously wish I grew up and lived in an age where people loved more and hated less. The crime, the hate, the madness, the destruction— all of it is crazy to me.

I don’t understand why people are still basing whether they will interact with a person because of their religious beliefs, color of their skin, sexual orientation, political beliefs, and other personal choices. STOP DOING THIS! It is ignorant. Get to know people and learn to love them for who they are as a person.

Why are police killing innocent people?  STOP DOING THIS! This is not the reason for the judicial system. We turn to law enforcement to feel safe, but who can you trust when you can’t trust the people in uniform who are suppose to make you feel safe?

Why are teenagers selling drugs and walking around with guns on their hips? Teach your children to STOP DOING THIS! Educate them on the importance of not engaging in the “street” life. Teach them appreciate things and the value of a legitimate lifestyle.

We have to come together as a nation to stop the madness. Life is hard, yes of course, but we need people to start loving each other and understanding the importance of life and love. The world is becoming ridiculous but if we all come together we can make a change.

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Just a little insight from the things I’ve been thinking about lately. One love to all….spread love, kill hate!

Click this awesome youtube video below. It is amazing.

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Little Lessons in Life

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You are naive if you believe life is going to be perfect all the time. Sometimes life throws curve balls and we have to learn how to hit a home run instead of strike out. I have recently experienced some intense situations in my life. Some I dealt with fairly easily, whileothers have taken me much longer to understand. In the past few years, I have had to learn to remove the negative energy and excuses for why things may be tough and revert it into positive energy and life lessons.

Little Life Lessons

1.  LOVE your family and friends. Don’t just tell them, show them. Take the 2 hour trip to visit your boring grandmother, or call your mom and listen to how tough her day was at work. The people you call family and friends are there for you, so show them how special they are to you. Our days are numbered, and I, personally want my parents, siblings, nieces, friends, etc. to know how important they are to me. We are all busy, but even if you take 10 minutes out of your day to call up someone in your family you haven’t spoken to in a while, or a friend you went to school with, just to see how they are doing and let them know how important they are to you can truly make a person’s day. I know this because, it makes my day when the phone rings and I hear my sweet nieces, or silly sister’s voice on the other end.

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2. Don’t let RELATIONSHIPS consume you. I feel as if some people get too comfortable in relationships. I’m not knocking the idea of love but be sure to be able to love yourself prior to loving another person. If you are honest with yourself and aren’t happy some times as hard as it may be, you have to end the relationship for not only you but also the other person. I recently ended a pretty lengthy relationship due to the fact that I felt as if it consumed me and hindered my future progress as an individual. There was no “cheating”,  I didn’t “hate” him, and there was no major fight to end things. I simply felt my heart wasn’t in it nor was it fair to keep someone in my life because I was “comfortable”. It’s ok sometimes to be uncomfortable for a moment to get your focus where it needs to be. I believe one of the main reasons it has been a mental challenge for him to move on is because he felt as if I was his life. He was an amazing person who no doubt loved me dearly but when things ended, it was difficult for him to stand on his own two feet which in turn made it more difficult for him to move forward.

3. Learn to be INDEPENDENT. I have been pretty blessed to have both a  supportive and encouraging family. My parents have taught me the importance of valuing what you have and hard work. These lessons have molded me into being an independent person. I like being on my own and not asking approval before doing what I want to do. I’m an adult who works hard therefore everything I have done and things I’ve experienced are because I worked for them. I take care of myself and my dog and at the end of the day that’s all I am responsible for. Of course I have had financial set backs, but luckily I have a great support system who will help me get back on track when I may struggle, but I find it important for people to be able to do things for themselves. I think some people may fear being uncomfortable and never learn to do things for themselves.

4. Be MINDFUL of who you let in. Certain people, for example, your family and friends, of course you are going to talk to  about certain things going on in your life, but not everyone you meet needs to know about your personal issues. Some people talk too much while others don’t talk enough. I am very out going and hang out with a lot of people but at the same time, I don’t let certain people I hang out with know too much about me. It’s not that I am being mean or sneaky, it’s because I have learned that people have to earn the right to get to know me. I have let a lot of people in, especially in my early 20s that I should have never talked to or considered a friend. It happens. Some people change while others were never true.  Humans, not all but some, are jealous creatures. Some people hate to see other people doing well, but that shouldn’t stop you from allowing those who do want you to succeed be a part of your experiences.

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5. Be APPRECIATIVE. No matter how tough something is don’t forget to appreciate all of the good in your life. Whether it be the sun shining  on a summer day or a  job promotion, never forget how lucky you are to have what you have!

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Crazy Kids

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It is no secret amongst my friends and family, that kids and I have a love/hate relationship.

For the longest time, I could not stand children. Being around them didn’t interest me one bit. Literally the only kid I really liked was my niece. I think being around her set the bar of how I feel like a lot of kids should act, smart and respectful.

Well maybe with maturity and understanding, I have softened up tremendously. I’m still not convinced if motherhood is in my future, kids are not that bad. The older I get the more I people I know and love are having children. Seeing the love my friends have for their children is awesome. I think  personally for me experiencing being an aunt amongst family as well as friends, has changed the way I look at children. Think about it. Being an influence in a child’s life is rewarding. You are helping them learn new things, experience a new perspective of life, and visit new places. You get to see them grow from a baby who just sleeps, cries, and poops, to a person with their own personality. It can be pretty entertaining at times. Kids are cute, they are smart and they are funny.

I respect parents. I know your job isn’t easy. All that I ask is that parents teach their children to love, be respectful, and never give up on their dreams.

Sweet faces I love…

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We’re All the Same Color When You Turn Off the Lights

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“I look to a day when people will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character,” Martin Luther King Jr. Today is MLK day. He was a true leader and inspiration in ending racism.
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I have never  thought about not talking to someone because of the way they look. I don’t understand how some people are so quick to judge others by the color of their skin.  I  grew up in a semi small town in South Carolina called Rock Hill. I graduated  high school in 2003. I remember catching hell from African American women because some of my friends were African American men. Never once met me, simply didn’t like the fact that I was friends with these guys.

I look back and laugh. If you are that insecure that you can not accept the fact that two people from different backgrounds are friends, it’s not worth me entertaining. I have always hung out with people from different backgrounds. I have friends who are white, black, Puerto Rican, mixed races, Dutch, Vietnamese, Korean, gay, lesbian, straight, parents, goody toe shoes, thugs,  college kids, and the list could go on and on. My point is don’t get too consumed in how different a person may be than you. Take a second to seriously get to know someone first. Use your own judgement to decide if an individual is worthy of your friendship.

Fast Forward to 2014. I moved to Charlotte NC about 4 years ago. It’s only 20 miles north of Rock Hill but I absolutely love it here. I can jump on the highway to visit friends and family yet I’m far enough away to run into a familiar face every time I go to the grocery store. You can go out and watch a game or grab a bite to eat and see friends in groups of all several races together. You see interracial couples having a drink at the bar. You see employees of all different skin tones smiling and laughing together.

Although I’m not sure if it’s because it’s a bigger city or if racism is slowly fading, it warms my heart to see that people are branching out and getting know each other. I think it is important for parents to also guide their children and help them understand it is ok to look different than your friends.

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That’s SO 2013

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It’s hard to believe it is 2014. The saying must be true because time really does fly when you are having fun. Although a year has past, 2013 brought a lifetime of memories.

JANUARY 2013- Me and Lgeezy

2013 started out for me with the rekindling of a friendship I once thought was beyond repair. Lauren and I are both very opinionated and my stubbornness hindered our friendship for a while and ever since we had a pretty intense talk sometime in January we have been closer than ever. We are always each other’s comical relief as well as ear to listen threw hardships. She and I often joke about how happy we are that we are friends and the truth is, I don’t think either one of us would have it any other way.

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Lauren and I at my house for Superbowl 2013

FEBRUARY 2013- I couldn’t think of one big moment so I put two for September, because it was a pretty great month!

MARCH 2013- Trippin’

In March my 8 year old niece,Darby, wanted to go visit some of our family in Colorado so I did what any aunt would do, went with her. She is so patient for a kid. She was an amazing passenger and we enjoyed watching the snowfall as we made crafts by the fire. She loved the snow and knew exactly where she wanted to eat while in Colorado Springs, CO. It’s almost bittersweet to watch her grow up.

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Well, Aunt Avyn had a big girl job so, I had to leave that Sunday and get back to work but Delta had other plans. I was stuck in an airport for 2 days straight. I spent one night in a hotel in Colorado Springs and another in Atlanta. Most people would have been miserable but lucky for me, I met some pretty kick ass people and we clicked instantly. We did everything together for those two days and even nicknamed ourselves the Delta Force. It was actually pretty amazing because to this day I talk to 2 of the ladies I met.

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APRIL 2013- Wilmington Bound

Quentin turned 30 this March and because I was in Colorado, I took him on a trip to Wilmington NC, in April. He is from Charleston SC, loves seafood, and had never been so we went down for a night and enjoyed some fresh seafood, a rooftop bar, and a beautiful condo overlooking the waterway. Although we didn’t get to take the sunset cruise I had planned because it was so cold outside, we still had an amazing trip and look forward to going again.

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MAY 2013- Claybo party of 2

This year my friend of many years Jennifer Allen became Jennifer Claybo. That’s right, she got married to her best friend Jon Claybo! The two are a walking definition of marrying your best friend. They adore each other so much and I am so glad I got to witness them tie the knot. Everything was beautiful and I continue to wish them both a lifetime of happiness.

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June- 28 Years of Greatness

One of my best friends, Beth, turned 28. My friend Casey and I hopped in the car and headed to Columbia, SC to celebrate 28 years of fabulousness with Beth. We had dinner at a Japanese restaurant where we actually sat on the floor. It was a feast of sushi, sake, and silliness. After dinner we had a pajama party with Beth and her roommates. I haven’t laughed that hard in a while.

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Beth- the birthday girl

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JULY 2013- America’s Most Wanted Tour

I try to go to at least one concert a year so this year I got a Groupon to the TI, Lil Wayne, and 2 Chains concert, told my friends about it and we all went. A few of us pregammed at my house then met everyone there and had a blast. Dancing on a summer night is one of the best feelings in the world.

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AUGUST 2013- Playin’ By the Pool with Pipes

My friend Piper and I both got laid off from our full time jobs and instead of moping around about it, we did what we could, looked for jobs, and most importantly had fun! If we didn’t see each other at least twice a week, something was seriously wrong. We took our dogs on walks, relaxed at each other’s houses, but my favorite times were pool times. We joked about how we “worked from home and we had business meetings”–leaving out the minor detail that we were unemployed and went to the pool weekly. It sucked getting laid off but we are both getting back on our feet finally, but I must admit it this summer was one of the best ones because of her.

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SEPTEMBER 2013- He liked it so he went and put a ring on it

Sunday September 15, 2013 my lifetime friend Casey was no longer  in a relationship with her boyfriend Jesse, she was now his fiancé. With country music playing, they sat in the back of his pick-up truck.  They were drinking wine in front of a bonfire when he got down one knee and asked for her hand in marriage. I am so excited to be apart of their wedding and can’t wait to see Casey as a bride! She will be gorgeous, I just know it!

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Here’s the ring!!!

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Jesse and Casey

SEPTEMBER 2013- She’s 1

This September my baby niece Remy Vera turned one! Decked out in a tutu and Chuck Taylors, she was the guest of honor at her cookies and milk themed birthday party. My sister in law is so creative she had a cookie decorating station set up for the children, a milk bar, and guest left with a mason jar packed to the top with ingredients to make their own cookies at home. I love my family and seeing Remy become a year old, walking and talking has been an amazing experience.

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OCTOBER 2013- Glammed Up Pumpkins

This year instead of carving pumpkins, some friends and I headed to Piper’s house and glammed up some pumpkin. Piper supplied glitter, glue, sequins and more and we decorated our pumpkins. I think they turned out adorable and it was much cleaner than sticking your hand in a slimy pumpkin.

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NOVEMBER 2013- Thankful for Thanksgiving

This Thanksgiving my family and I enjoyed a delicious meal at my parent’s house. It was laid back but we were surrounded by love and each other.

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This is some of our feast

DECEMBER 2013- It’s Christmas time in the city

Hands down, Christmas was the best way to end the year. From celebrating with my friends at our annual holiday party to watching my niece open her iPad, Christmas was amazing. Anytime I am with family and friends, I am content. They are the reason I get up each day and aim for greatness. Below are some pictures from my holiday celebrations.

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My Charlie Brown tree

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10th Annual Peacock Christmas Party

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My amazing mother

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Handmade crafts from my niece

Growing Up and Bucket Lists

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This Saturday is my 28th birthday! For me, the past 8 years have taught me a lot. I have changed from a young carless  party girl to a caring professional  young woman. I feel like the 20s  have molded me into the person I truly am.  Although, I am proud of who I’ve evolved into, there are still a couple things that I’d like to do while I’m still in my 20s.

20 Things to Do While I’m Still in My 20s

  1. PRAY more.
  2. Land a CAREER that allows me to live comfortably.
  3. READ more books.
  4. Be more ACTIVE.
  5. Spend more time with my FAMILY.
  6. Get out of DEBT.
  7. TRAVEL more.
  8. Watch less TV. 
  9. CUSS less.
  10. INVEST.
  11. MOVE into a house with a back yard.
  12. COOK new recipes.
  13. Get another PUPPY.
  14. Get PUBLISHED.
  15. Expand my MARY KAY business.
  16. COMMUNICATE better when upset.
  17. Become more CRAFTY. 
  18. DONATE to cause I’m passionate about.
  19. Become more PATIENT.  
  20. SKYDIVE. 

Beautiful Bride

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I absolutely love weddings! I love going to them, watching them on movies, and hope one day to plan a wedding of my own. I hope to one day officially become a wife in front of the people who are most important to me–my friends and family.

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I am in my late 20s and have been to/in a good number of weddings.  When I think wedding I think beauty. I love how everyone has there own vision of what a beautiful wedding is but how different yet amazing each wedding  is. There is never one wedding that is the exact same yet the love of the room remains constant. From the diamond, to the decor, to the flowers, and most importantly the bride. I’m a sucker for love and cry at every single wedding I go to.

There is so much to consider when becoming a bride. Yes, there are the details of the wedding such as the bridal party, the location, the menu, etc, but there is also a lot that goes into making sure you look flawless on your wedding day.

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Below are some helpful tips I found on http://en.paperblog.com/wedding-journal-the-wedding-dress-476366/ when picking out the best dress for your shape.

The Mermaid  Wedding Dress – Suits hour glass and rectangle shapes

Mermaid Wedding Dresses

The Trumpet Wedding Dress – Suits hour glass and rectangle shapes

Trumpet Wedding Dresses

The A-Line  Wedding Dress – suits the Inverted Triangle, the Rectangle, the Pear and the Hour Glass

A-Line Wedding Dresses

The Princess Wedding Dress – suits all shapes

Princess Wedding Dresses

The Empire Wedding Dress – suits all shapes, height also an advantage

Empire Wedding Dresses

The Sheath / Column Dress – suits the Hour Glass but even better the Rectangle

Sheath/Column Wedding Dresses

The Ball Gown Wedding Dress – suits all shapes

Ballgown Wedding Dresses

The Tea Length Wedding Dress – suits all shapes, height an advantage

Tea Length Wedding Dresses

The Mini Wedding Dress – suits Rectangle and Hour Glass shapes, slim legs an advantage